Protocol For M/s Interaction
This is based on something I wrote in reply to a question. The original question was about how a sub/slave or Dom/Master interactions should go with others not in your specific relationship. Or, how do you refer or speak to someone else's Dom/Master or sub/slave or people of unknown status not in general mundane or non-kink/BDSM/tradition/protocol settings. These are my current thoughts on the subject.
I will distill a few things and they will give a general, not specific to everyone answer. This applies to both Master and slave although the exact expression of interactions is or can be different. It is divided into three general principles or answers to the question.
The first principle is that there is no one answer to fit everyone and every situation.
The second principle is the old line about when in Rome do as the Romans do. If you are at a Leather, Gorean, high protocol or other function with traditional or specific usage, use their protocols. This is called common courtesy and politeness. If allowed or instructed to do otherwise, then do so. However, you will be well received if while you are visiting another group, you do as they do.
The third principle is the combination of common politeness and respect. Many people were taught as children to use Sir and Ma'am when speaking to others and to be polite. Unless someone says otherwise or you have someone who does not want you to do use those terms, most people will not have a problem with the polite forms of those terms. They are not the quite the same, as the titles some people use. Most people know the difference by usage. But in very mixed settings anything can happen. Speaking to people politely and showing respect for others and their beliefs and ways is a good way to smooth out interactions between people. To use a common example of respect...you may not like the individual in a political office but still have respect for the office so you use the proper title when referring to that person should you interact with them. The Pope is still called Your Holiness even if you are not Catholic and you are speaking with him. That is respect and politeness in action.
If you stick to those three principles you will get along with most people and few people will be offended by what you do and say. If someone is offended, the high probability is that they are the problem, not you. Having as little as possible to do with such people, in my opinion, is a wise choice.
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