Consensual Enslavement
Et Consensu, Et Parere
The title is Google Latin for I Consent, I Obey. It comes from a story that almost no one has read. Yet.
- • The fire pit was cold and dark now, but she would remember that fire for a very long time. It was where she really started saying, et consensu and meaning it. I consent. I consent to everything. I consent becomes I obey. Et parere, if she was right. She was about half fluent in college after a couple years of Latin. She needed a language but didn’t want to take what everyone else was taking. So she chose Latin instead. It’s easy to say one thing leads to another but in this case it does. When you really consent, obedience is almost easy. Maybe eventually it would become second nature for her like it seemed to be for Alex and other slaves she had known. “Master seems to understand so much without having done it and yet, he teaches it so the progression seems simple and natural,” were her thoughts as she stared out the window then looked down at the chain between her wrists. “Two days ago, Slave would have fought these and now after less than a day here they represent freedom for her mind and thoughts. Now she understands...well...partly understands the whole freedom in slavery thing. They are on and they don’t bother her. Master wants them on and she consented therefore she obeys. Et consensu, et parere. Now it seems so simple.”
This is the musing of someone new to consensual slavery as a slave. It is a simple concept stating that when you consent to what is happening, obedience becomes easy. Perhaps easier is a better way of saying it. It comes down to the idea of you agreed to do this (general) therefore you agree to do this (specific). This is a very important concept in consensual non-consent where consent is given in advance without knowing in advance all that is being consented to. In this case, Slave is saying that she consented to being her Master’s slave in all forms that it entailed. In this example, she is wearing Restraints on her wrists and ankles.
Until she consented, she would have fought against being restrained and treated this way. Now, she has consented and accepts that these restraints are her Master’s choice that she wears them so she obeys and no longer worries about whether or not she should obey, she just does. She no longer fights the control he has over her to regain the control over herself, which she had before submitting. Getting a slave to this point is one of the major goals for a Master practicing consensual enslavement. It comes easier with some and much harder with others. In the story it comes much quicker than it normally does with real people. This is because it is fiction and the author wanted it that way in order to explain concepts like this.
Getting someone to the ‘I consent’ point and having them mean it is not easy. It requires time, effort, and especially trust. The slave must trust that when she consents to her Master’s will, she will gain from it and not be harmed by it. It takes a strong person to consent, to surrender to that level. Few get and stay there but those who do find that even with the hard things their Master wants, ‘I obey’ comes easy. It is not instant full obedience but with each time obeying and her trust being verified it comes easier to trust and obey the next time.
Perhaps the phrase for the slave should be ego confideo, et consensu, et parere, or as Google translates it Crede mihi, ut consensus, ut parere. I trust, I consent, I obey. A starting goal but certainly not an end goal for consensual enslavement.
The quote is from a book on how to understand and do consensual enslavement entitled “I Can Do This” by Malkinius. The quote is from the last chapter of the fictional consensual slavery example. The fire pit is very significant in the first chapter and to her transition from free to slave.